社会学家说，我们正在步入陌生人的社会，告别农耕时代村舍之间的鸡犬相闻，在人潮涌动的现代都市，人际交往不仅仅意味着成功的机会，更代表着更加丰盈的人生。也许你已经厌倦了这样的生活：疯狂打拼之后是你单调的下班时分
———有限的交际圈子，看书、看电视、看碟、玩游戏、上网，几乎日日如此。 对于一个白领丽人而言，如果你还想在事业上有进一步的发展，你必须懂得编织以及维护你的人际关系网络。
成功来自聚会
有职业规划专家说，10%的成绩，30%的自我定位以及60%的关系网络才是成就理想的标准因素。
对于女性而言这却常常是一个艰难的障碍。难道不是她们在办公室里取得的工作成绩和她们的专业知识反而是她们的自我公关能力和良好的关系网才令她们魅力无穷吗?其实答案很简单：如果你的上司们对你毫无印象，他们怎么会在重要的时刻想起你呢?
我们不得不承认，有的时候成功来自于轻松的聚会———男人们几百年前就开始在专门的鸡尾酒会上成交买卖了。从自由市场买卖、学生会等这种“老式关系网络”到高尔夫俱乐部、巨头会议或是在桑拿中共同体验流汗：只要有男人们聚会的地方，就会有方向性的决策以及勇攀高峰的登山组成立。这也证实了德国社会学家爱尔文·舍尔希的话：“高端决策者们互相扶植而达到成功，他们的格言是：你搀了我一下，我也会扶你一下。”
认识更多人和被更多人认识
很多女性羞于运用她们的交际能力或是根本不愿展示自己的魅力。然而不合时宜的谦虚以及过分良好的家教都会成为成功之路的阻碍。最终我们可以总结出人群结交———用时髦话说就是人际关系网络———的严格规律：谁在关系网中处理得当，谁就会认识更多的人且被更多的人认识。
人际关系网是付出和给予之间的不断平衡，一种双方同意的公平交易。这里谈不上什么道德评价问题，尤其是在仍然根本谈不上性别平等的职业生活中：女性的失业率要明显高于男性，同等职位的女性得到的是比她男性同事低得多的薪酬，而高层领导中女性的存在更是少而又少。
理想的工作、含金量高的点子、具有决定意义的优势信息———那些整日拘泥于自己躯壳里孤僻的人是永远不会具备这些成功的要素的。而那些经常搞聚会的，经常让别人看见，和别人交往的而且有时也会到社区论坛上走一遭的人才能轻松获得成功的门票。也只有这样的人才能够被另一人群所接纳：这个人群中的人通常会探讨如何在职场中获得成功，悄悄交流哪里会出现某个职位空缺，他们也通常能通过交流来消除自己内心的疑虑。这样你便能成为一个交际家。
从自己的生活伴侣到工作同事再到街角士多老板———我们中的每个人平均认识500个人。这些关系都可以好好利用起来并运用技巧将它们联系起来。如果你能够善于经营自己的人际网络，一定能获得蜘蛛人那样的神奇力量，你的人生也将因此变得丰盈。
With the development of our society, the connection between people becomes inevitable. People need to communicate with others as long as they are in the world. As a result, the interpersonal relationship becomes more and more important.
First of all, a good interpersonal relation promote people become successful. Through the human history, we can summarize that no one can do everything well and become successful alone. Most of the great men have a good relationship among people. For many peole, interpersonal relationship and their ability are equal important to their success. Keeping a good relationship with others, peole can easily get assistance from others when facing difficulties. In other words,excellent interpersonal communication skills can help remove obstacles on the way to success. Secondly,a good interpersonal relation can help people live a happy life. Living in a harmonious environment need people keep a good relationship with the people around. The friendly people will form a happy atmosphere. That will make people work efficient and keep a good mood in the daily life. It is certain that people will receive happiness in the end.
To sum up, as interpersonal relationship is so essential to people’s success and happiness, I advocate people get along well with with others. The first thing is smile more everyday.
从一名管理人员成功转型为领导者，个人人际网络的建设——建设一个能为自己提供支持、反馈、观点、资源以及信息的人际关系网络——将是一大挑战。
管理者之所以能得到提升，通常是由于他们有很强的专业能力。但要解决全局性的战略问题时，需要的是人际关系而不是管理能力。此时，与目前以及潜在的利益相关人士打交道，并不是不务“正业”，而是他们工作中最核心的内容。这里对三种人际关系构建模式进行分析：
建立业务型人际网络
所有管理人员都需要同那些能帮助自己做好工作的人建立良好的关系。建立这种人际网络的目的，是确保完成眼前的任务。这种网络的关系是由工作性质和组织结构决定的，所以业务型人际网络经常存在于组织内部。由于该网络成员范围极其有限，此类网络除了帮助管理者完成手头工作，不会有多大帮助。
建立自己个人型人际网络
一旦意识到自己在工作中过度依赖内部关系，管理人员就会开始在组织外寻求与自己具有相同思想的人，并通过参加专业协会、校友联谊会、俱乐部等兴趣团体来建设个人型人际网络。个人型人际网络可以为个人发展提供安全的空间。遗憾的是，很多管理者没有认识到：只有把这些人际联系与组织战略结合起来，才可能帮助管理者顺利完成领导角色的转变。
建立战略合作型人际网络
从管理者转变为领导者，管理人员必须开始用全局的眼光考虑战略问题。对于希望成为领导者的管理人员来说，战略型人际网络能提供一系列的关系和信息来源，是实现个人目标和组织目标的力量源泉。事实上，是否拥有一个有效的战略型人际网络才是一个优秀的领导者和普通管理者的区别所在。
那么，怎么才能建立起有效的战略型人际网络呢?
尊重他人的观点 管理者只有认同建立人际网络的意义，才有可能在上面倾注足够的时间和精力，并实现预期的结果。消除这一误解的最好办法就是找一个榜样。你原先可能会对某一做法反感，但是当你改变自己的成见，学会尊敬他人，采取这一做法时，你的态度可能也会随之改变。
从外部入手 和本部门以外或者本单位以外的高级管理者接触，管理者需要找一个合理的“由头”。这时，我们可以尝试把个人的兴趣和专业的技能转移到战略层面中。通过个人兴趣或者专业的技能来结交相关人士。还有一些管理者会利用自己的专业兴趣和技能建立内外部联系。
重新分配时间 人际网络建设需要大量的时间，为此管理者必须学会授权，才能有足够多的时间来从事人际交往。遗憾的是，刚出道的管理者往往看不到致力于人际网络建设的收益。他们在人际网络建设上花的时间越少，就越不擅长此道，进而会形成一个恶性循环。
经常使用人际网络 很多管理者将良好的人际网络等同于认识大量的人。然而，认识仅仅是开始。优秀的人际网络建设者的做法是这样的：不管是否需要帮助，他们都会从网络成员那里寻求帮助，同时也会尽力给予。只有经常使用人际网络，人际网络才能存在和发展。
持之以恒，坚持到底 建设人际网络，毅力比技巧更重要。当初期的投入不能立刻带来预期的效果时，很多人就会武断地认定自己没有人际网络这方面的天赋。但是建设人际网络并非与生俱来的能力，也不一定需要合群外向的性格。它实际上是一种技能，需要不断地练习。
Study the picture above carefully and write an essay entitled “On the Interpersonal Relationship in the Modern World” In the essay, you should (1) describe the picture (2) interpret its meaning (3) give your opinion about the phenomenon .You should write about 200 words neatly on ANSWER SHEET 2. (20 points)
The picture is talking about a story about neighborhood. Two ladies living in the opposite apartments say “hello” when they happen to meet each other in the corridor. One of them says, “I moved here 5 years ago, but I never met you before. Could I ask your name please?” The other says,” I have been here for 6 years. How should I call you?”
It seems very ridiculous that people living so near don’t know each other for such a long time. However, this kind of story is performed everywhere. It is the exact reflection of interpersonal relationships in the modern world. In the modern world, most people live in apartments. They close their doors and never go out as soon as they get home from work. If they live alone, they will kill their time by watching TV or reading magazines. They don’t have any connections even with their closest neighbors, who seem no different from people they meet everyday in the street. They become more and more indifferent.
This phenomenon is no good to us, nor to our society. People will feel lonely more and more. The world becomes so indifferent. Interpersonal relationships are not harmonious. It’s time that we took some measures to improve it. People living in the same zone can be organized to have some activities together. We should call on people to be friendly to each other. As a popular song says,” If everybody gives a little love to each other, the world will become the sea of love.”
When I first set my eyes on a father and his daughter, I heard the father ask about his daughter's school life. To my surprise, the girl told his father to read her blog so that he can get what he wants.
Now, the Internet has been playing an increasingly important role in our day-to-day life. It has influenced us a lot, especially on our interpersonal communication.
For one thing, the Internet makes the interpersonal communication more convenient. We can contact with each other no matter when and where. The Internet makes full use of time and space. What’s more, we can also share our daily life and knowledge through QQ, MSN, and blog with others. For another thing, the Internet speeds up our interpersonal communication. We can save time to do our work. However, the Internet also brings about many problems, such as safety problems, cheating and so on. Many people spend too much time on the Internet, and they don't have time to interact with person in real life, which result in the absence of ability in communication in reality.
It has both advantages and disadvantages to interact through the Internet. We can get to the problem in our work and study. Last but not lest, we have to talk with people and develop our ability to communicate in reality.